《每日原则》:  迎接而非躲避痛苦

如果你没有放任自己，而是习惯承受一定程度的痛苦，你就会更快地进化。事实就是这样。

每当你遇到痛苦的东西时，你正处于生活中一个潜在的重要节点：你可以选择健康并痛苦的事实，也可以选择不健康但令人舒适的幻觉。妙处在于，如果你选择了健康之路，痛苦将很快变成快乐。痛苦就是信号！就像不锻炼的人开始锻炼，养成享受痛苦的习惯，从痛苦中学习，就会让人“步入新境界”。我所说的“步入新境界”是指，你会喜欢以下三点：

• 找到、接受，并学会如何应对你的弱点；

• 希望身边的人对你坦诚，而不是隐瞒对你的负面看法；

• 展现真实的自我，而不是强行把弱点伪装成优势。

If you don’t let up on yourself and instead become comfortable always operating with some level of pain, you will evolve at a faster pace. That’s just the way it is. Every time you confront something painful, you are at a potentially important juncture in your life—you have the opportunity to choose healthy and painful truth or unhealthy but comfortable delusion. The irony is that if you choose the healthy route, the pain will soon turn into pleasure. The pain is the signal! Like switching from not exercising to exercising, developing the habit of embracing the pain and learning from it will “get you to the other side.” By “getting to the other side,” I mean that you will become hooked on:

• Identifying, accepting, and learning how to deal with your weaknesses,

• Preferring that the people around you be honest with you rather than keep their negative thoughts about you to them-selves, and

• Being yourself rather than having to pretend to be strong where you are weak.