《启迪孩子 激励世界》——不要比较孩子

Question: I find the concept of your Inner Engineering as a way of life for children very difficult, because they have to meet children from different walks of life and different social backgrounds. How does this Inner Engineering, which I would like to give my children at home, withstand the competition, the pressure, the kind of lifestyle that other children have. How can my children go into this?

问：我发现，用您的内在工程理念中所倡导的生活方式去引导孩子是很困难的。因为我的孩子不得不面对来自社会各行各业、各个社会阶层的孩子们。我想要让我的孩子也学习内在工程，可这怎么能够帮助他们抵挡住社会的竞争，外在的压力，以及其他孩子的生活方式（的影响）。我的孩子怎么样才能够投入其中？

Sadhguru: See, the pressure is only because you are putting two absolutely unique beings in comparison. Is there one more person exactly like you on this planet? No. Fortunately so, isn't it? (Laughs) I'm joking. There is only one like you. So each being is an absolutely unique being. That is so for your child also. But now you are trying to put them all into the same compartment and compare them with something that they can learn - ABC or 123 or something - and make them feel better or worse about it. 

萨古鲁：你看，压力的出现是由于你将两个绝对独特的事物放在一起比较。在这个星球上还有一个和你一模一样的人吗？没有。所幸的是没有，是吧？（笑）我在开玩笑，只能有一个你。每一个存在都是绝对独特的。同理，你的孩子也是一样。但是现在你却要把孩子们放在同一个框框里，用他们所能学的东西——ABC或123，或者其他什么去做比较，然后让他们自我感觉很好或者很糟。

So it is you who brought that competition and comparison, because for most parents it is not about education; it is about first rank. All they want is - they want their children to sit on top of every other child's head. They are not interested in learning, they are not interested in education, they are not interested in career, they are not interested in anything. Their whole effort in their life is how to sit on top of the pile. Isn't it so? Everybody wants to sit on top of the pile. Everybody cannot sit on top of the pile. Only a few will sit. Others will naturally end up at the bottom and get suppressed, isn't it so? Whatever activity, if our focus is just to sit on top of the pile, naturally many others will get suffocated under the pile. This is bound to happen, there is no other way. 

正是你，引来了竞争和比较。对大多数家长而言，他们关心的不是教育，而是要拔尖儿。他们只想着，让他们的孩子比其他孩子更胜一筹。他们并不关心学习，也不关心教育。他们对事业不感兴趣，他们对其他事物一概不感兴趣。他们一生的努力是怎么让孩子拔尖儿。所有人都想让孩子出类拔萃，是这样的吧？每个人都想拔得头筹，可不是任何人都能做到，只有少数人能。其他人自然就站到末尾去了，因此也就感到有压力，是这样的吗？无论做什么事，如果我们只关心爬到所有人之上，自然众多被压在底层的人会感到窒息。这种情况一定会发生，别无选择。

So that orientation of education has to go. 'No, no, I cannot do anything, the schools are like that'. No, schools are just catering to your attitudes. If your attitudes change, the schools will change. They want to run the business the way it works, isn't it? All you want is - somehow you want your child to get 100%. It doesn't matter what happens to the child. You want your child to get first rank. They are just trying to cater to it because you are paying them. They are just trying to fulfill their job. In the course of your activity, the child is getting ruined, but it doesn't matter. Your child is unhappy, it doesn't matter. You want him to be first rank. This is a sickness which has to go. 

因此，这种对待教育的态度必须去除。“不不，我也无能为力，学校就是这样的。” 不，学校只是为了迎合你。如果你的态度转变，学校就会改变。学校是按需求来经营的，不是吗？而你只想让孩子得100分。孩子经历了什么都不重要，你就是想让他们拿第一。学校努力去满足这些，因为你付了钱给学校。学校仅仅是为了完成他们的工作而已。在你的所有努力中，孩子们将被毁掉，但你觉得这不算什么。你的孩子不快乐，这也无关紧要。你想的就是让孩子拿第一。这种病态的做法必须废除。

True human genius will not flower if this kind of education happens. True human capabilities will not find expression in competition. True human capabilities will find expression only in absolute relaxation. Your mind, your body will work best, will find fullest expression, only when you are joyful and peaceful, and quiet within yourself. When you are trying to race with somebody, you are only thinking of going one step ahead of him, that's all. You are not thinking of what your ultimate potential is. We are just ruining a whole generation of people with the kind of schooling we are providing. 

让这种教育进行下去，人类的天赋不会绽放。人类真正的才干，无法在竞争中施展。人类真正的聪明才智只有在绝对放松的状态下才会释放。只有在身心愉悦、平和宁静状态下，你的头脑和你的身体，才会处于最佳工作状态，才会有充分的表现。当你和别人竞赛的时候，你唯一的想法就是超过他，仅此而已。你不会想什么是自己能做到的极致。我们在用这种教育毁掉一代人。