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在神秘力量充斥的东方国度韩国，就有这么一个神奇的概念，叫做nunchi（눈치），读作noon-qi。原本它只是韩国人之间常用的说法，但最近开始在国外也流行了起来。很多人认为，Nunchi就是韩国人民的“超级力量”，把它传为一种“读心术”：拥有nunchi的人便能如开了外挂一般，在人际关系中能够游刃有余，秒变social小王子/公主。似乎拥有nunchi的人，不仅可以更好地选择亲密关系的伴侣，还能结交工作中让人顺心的合作伙伴。它可以让老板对你刮目相看；保护你不受其他人的恶意伤害。nunchi还能减少社交焦虑，让别人站在你这一边，即使他们也不懂这是为什么。看了这些传说中的好处，你小小的脑瓜里可能会充满大大的疑惑：nunchi到底是啥啊？说得这么邪乎，是真实存在的吗？

It is at our mother’s knee that we acquire our noblest and truest and highest ideals, but there is seldom any money in them. --- Mark Twain

What is 'nunchi', the Korean secret to happiness?

Have you ever wanted to read minds? Or wished you had a little bit more of whatever ineffable quality it is that makes some people seem effortlessly popular at parties, lucky in love, and successful at work? Perhaps you need to brush up on you nunchi – a traditional Korean concept of situational awareness.

Nunchi is the “art of understanding what people are thinking and feeling” – a quality held by those who are sensitive to the dynamics within a given group. Koreans cultivate nunchi from a young age. The word “nunchi” itself roughly translates to “eye-measure”, a sort of sizing-up, not of individuals but of the overall context and atmosphere of a situation. It’s applicable to just about every social setting one can be in, from a wedding to a job interview.

In action, nunchi involves noticing who, in any given context, is speaking, who is listening, who interrupts, who apologizes, who is rolling their eyes. From there, one can make potentially useful assessments about the nature of relationships and hierarchies within a group, the overall mood, and how to behave accordingly.

早起卡 ☞ 就是在我们母亲的膝上，我们获得了我们最高尚、最真诚和最远大的理想，但是里面很少有任何金钱。--- 马克·吐温

翻译卡 ☞ 韩国人通往幸福的秘密

你是否想过去猜别人的心思？或者，是否想过希望你拥有某种无法言喻的品质，就是那种可以使某些人似乎可以在派对上毫不费力地成为受到欢迎的人，成为爱情里的幸运儿，以及职场上的人生赢家？也许你需要提升你的nunchi –这是一种韩国传统的事态感知的概念。

Nunchi是“了解人们的想法和感受的艺术” –一种对特定组群中的动态敏感的人所拥有的品质。韩国人从小就开始培养这样的能力。“nunchi”一词本身粗略地翻译为“眼力测量”，是一种判断，不是针对个人，而是针对整体上下文以及环境局势。从婚礼到工作面试，几乎适用于每个社交场合。

在日常运用中，nunchi涉及到，在任何给出的特定场景下，你注意到谁在讲话，谁在听，谁打断别人，谁在道歉，谁在转动眼睛。从那里，一个人可以做出潜在地有用的判断，包含了：关系的性质、特定一群人的上下级关系、整个环境里的情绪以及如何根据情况来作出反应。