令人痛苦的问题是对自控力的考验，验证我们的批判性思维是否活跃。人类的大脑会释放出各种情绪，通过化学活性来影响我们的身体（更多是理性的部分）。我常常通过收集科学数据来发现新视角（排除情绪干扰），例如投入的时间与结果之比、参与的人数和相关的利益群体之比等，这些数据有些是定性的，有些是定量的，但不管怎样，这个习惯能让我用创造性的思维来看待问题。其他的做法包括在情绪稳定的情况下，模拟他人的观点。
你拥有好的解决办法和思维方式。你谈到了大脑是如何在生理上运作的（例如，通过化学因素），我们在这一点上是完全一致的（请参考《原则》书中“理解人与人大不相同”的部分）。我很想让你知道冥想对我们所谈论的挑战是很有帮助的。关于冥想在如何影响我们大脑的生理运转，以及如何使我们的情绪和理性相一致的研究已经非常全面了，我建议你了解一下它，并亲身实践。
Good approach and good thinking behind it. You spoke about how the brain works physiologically (e.g. with chemicals). We are completely aligned (see my chapter “How We Are Wired Differently”). What I want to make sure you don’t miss is the power of meditation in helping with the challenge that we are discussing. The research on how it affects our brains physiologically and how that affects our abilities to align our emotions with our logic is extensive. I suggest that you learn about it and that you do it.
瑞，这又是一条简洁而精彩的原则。通常情况下，揭露问题常常被认为是扰乱了现实工作、流程，以及人们作为功能性零部件的主要责任。在您看来，什么是拥有透明度和践行决心的最好办法？
推动言论自由。当你知道某些事会带来痛苦或者不妥当，你应该主动提出来并进行讨论。
Facilitating freedom of expression. Knowing that if something hurts or doesn’t feel right, you should bring it up and discuss it.
您认为一个人想要做到极度求真最大的障碍是什么？《原则》给了我很大的启发，我希望可以将极度诚实和极度求真融入到我的生活中。
你必须要与他人达成共识的是这就是你们彼此相处的方式，然后你要不断地去练习。你会发现较高层次的自我与较低层次的自我在斗争，正因为你清楚在发生什么，所以通过练习会使你获得自我控制的能力。你身边和你相处的人也会这么做，从而帮到你。如果你发现你们之间就某事存在问题，那么应该停止你们正在做的事情(例如，停止争论)，并且俯视当前情况，去重新审视你们应该如何相处才能很好地处理这种情况。然后，按照达成一致的方式重新应对之前的情况。勤于练习会让你更擅长这么做，它将会带来好的结果，而你也不会想要停止这样的相处模式。
You have to agree with others that this is the way you want to be with each other and then you have to practice it. You will observe your upper level you struggling with your lower level you but, because you will now know that that is happening, you will gain control with practice. The others that you are in a relationship with will do the same and help you. If you find that you are having problems with it, you should stop what you’re doing (e.g. stop arguing) and go above the situation to review how you should be with each other to handle such situations well. Then go back into your situation opening in the agreed upon way. If you practice this, you will get good at it, it will produce great results and you won’t want to stop operating this way with each other.
作为一名初级医生，当我的学识和错误会对他人产生负面影响时，我该如何运用这个原则?
我的情况也一样，因为我的错误会给人们带来负面影响（金钱而非身体上的）。其他人也以各自的形式处于这样的位置。应对这类处境的“原则”对于我们大家都是一样的。选择一个对的环境，在这个环境中当你把自己的错误摆在桌面上时，是会受到鼓励的，同时也是安全的，并且可以在别人的帮助下正确地看待它们，从而使你进步。请你一起共事或者寻求帮助的人就你应该承担的风险类型给予指导，这样你就可以随着技能的提升而应对更多的风险。有些医院擅长这么做 ，而有些并非如此。所以，选择你所处的环境，使之能够既有利于你的个人进化也可以保证你对他人的贡献。
I’m in the same boat because my mistakes negatively impact people (monetarily rather than physically). Others in their own ways are also in that position. The principles for handling well are the same for all of us. Pick the right environment in which it is both encouraged and safe to bring your mistakes to the surface and to look at them well with the help of others so you improve. Also, have others that you are working with or for help provide guidance about the types of risks you should take so that you can increase them with your increased skill. Some hospitals are good at operating that way and some are not, so choose the environment you are in to be aligned with what is best for your evolution and for you contributing to others.
