接纳不完美的自己
Self-Discipline: Acceptance -
译者：低头麦穗 原文作者：Steve Pavlina
The first of the five pillars of self-discipline is acceptance. Acceptance means that you perceive reality accurately and consciously acknowledge what you perceive.
自律之一，学会接受。接受就是你要切实地认识现实，并清醒地承认你所认识的。
This may sound simple and obvious, but in practice it’s extremely difficult. If you experience chronic difficulties in a particular area of your life, there’s a strong chance that the root of the problem is a failure to accept reality as it is.
这看起来一目了然，做起来可就没那么简单了。如果你在生活中长时间的苦闷，此时正是你认识到问题的关键。你还没法接受现实。
Why is acceptance a pillar of self-discipline? The most basic mistake people make with respect to self-discipline is a failure to accurately perceive and accept their present situation. Remember the analogy between self-discipline and weight training from yesterday’s post? If you’re going to succeed at weight training, the first step is to figure out what weights you can already lift. How strong are you right now? Until you figure out where you stand right now, you cannot adopt a sensible training program.
为何学会接受是通向自律的关键之一？人们对于自律最大的误区就是无法切实地认识并接受现实。在上篇文章里提到自律和举重训练的类比，如果你想拿下举重训练，首先你要知道自己到底能举多重。你现在的体质够壮吗？只有明确这一点，才能选择适合的训练课程。
If you haven’t consciously acknowledged where you stand right now in terms of your level of self-discipline, it’s highly unlikely that you’re going to improve at all in this area. Imagine a would-be bodybuilder who has no idea how much weight s/he can lift and arbitrarily adopts a training routine. It’s virtually certain that the chosen weights will be either too heavy or too light. If the weights are too heavy, the trainee won’t be able to lift them at all and thus will experience no muscle growth. And if the weights are too light, the trainee will lift them easily but won’t build any muscle in doing so.
如果你不清楚自己自律水平，你就很难在这方面有所提高。要知道举重的重量不能太轻也不能太重，如果太重，你根本无法举起，谈不上锻炼肌肉；如果太轻，你很容易举起，也起不到锻炼的作用。
Similarly, if you want to increase your self-discipline, you must know where you stand right now. How strong is your discipline at this moment? Which challenges are easy for you, and which are virtually impossible for you?
所以，如果你想要提高自律能力，就要了解现在的自己有多自律。能接受何样的挑战。
Here’s a list of challenges to get you thinking about where you stand right now (in no particular order):
下列列出挑战清单，请各位看官用此了解一下自己。（无需按照顺序）：
Do you shower/bathe every day?
Do you get up at the same time every morning? Including weekends?
Are you overweight?
Do you have any addictions (caffeine, nicotine, sugar, etc.) you’d like to break but haven’t?
Is your email inbox empty right now?
Is your office neat and well organized?
Is your home neat and well organized?
How much time do you waste in a typical day? On a weekend?
If you make a promise to someone, what’s the percentage chance you’ll keep it?
If you make a promise to yourself, what’s the percentage chance you’ll keep it?
你是否每天洗澡？
你每天早上都按时起床吗？周末也算在内。
你超重吗？
你有想戒掉却还没戒掉的瘾吗？
你邮箱里的收件箱现在是空的吗？
你办公室整洁吗？
你家里整洁吗？
你在周末或特定的日子会浪费多少时间？
如果你向他人做个承诺，你会守多久？
如果你向自己做个承诺，你会守多久？
Could you fast for one day?
How well organized is your computer’s hard drive?
How often do you exercise?
What’s the greatest physical challenge you’ve ever faced, and how long ago was it?
How many hours of focused work do you complete in a typical workday?
How many items on your to do list are older than 90 days?
Do you have clear, written goals? Do you have written plans to achieve them?
If you lost your job, how much time would you spend each day looking for a new one, and how long would you maintain that level of effort?
你可以进食一天吗？
你电脑硬盘驱动器里是否有条不紊？
你多久锻炼一次？
你曾经遇到过最难的体育锻炼是什么？是多久之前的事了？
你在工作日能集中精力多少小时去完成工作？
你清单上有多少目标执行了超过90天？
你有清晰的目标吗？有记下来吗？你有把这些记下来的目标完成吗？
如果你丢了工作，你每天会花多长时间找新工作？你会坚持多久去努力找工作？
How much TV do you currently watch? Could you give up TV for 30 days?
How do you look right now? What does your appearance say about your level of discipline (clothes, grooming, etc)?
Do you primarily select foods to eat based on health considerations or on taste/satiety?
When was the last time you consciously adopted a positive new habit? Discontinued a bad habit?
Are you in debt? Do you consider this debt an investment or a mistake?
Did you decide in advance to be reading this blog right now, or did it just happen?
Can you tell me what you’ll be doing tomorrow? Next weekend?
On a scale of 1-10, how would you rate your overall level of self-discipline?
What more could you accomplish if you could answer that last question with a 9 or 10?
你最近在看多少部电视剧？你能在30天内都不看吗？
你现在是何样打扮？你的装束能体现何等自律能力？
你以什么标准挑选食物？健康？美味？饱腹？
你现在有贷款吗？你觉得贷款是投资还是不该做的事情？
你是提前决定阅读此文章还是刚刚已经读完了？
你能告诉我明天你的计划吗？还有下周的。
从1到10，你给自己的自律能力打分。
如果你给自己打分9-10，你还有其他要做的事情要做吗？
Just as there are different muscle groups which you train with different exercises, there are different areas of self-discipline: disciplined sleep, disciplined diet, disciplined work habits, disciplined communication, etc. It takes different exercises to build discipline in each area.
锻炼不同部位的肌肉，不能只采用一种锻炼方式；自律也是：按时睡觉、按顿吃饭、良好的工作习惯、友好的沟通方式等等，需要各个击破。
My advice is to identify an area where your discipline is weakest, assess where you stand right now, acknowledge and accept your starting point, and design a training program for yourself to improve in this area. Start out with some easy exercises you know you can do, and gradually progress to greater challenges.
建议大家确认一下自己最无法自律的地方在哪里，对自己有个正确的评估，认识并接受真正的自己，设计一套符合自己的课程去锻炼自律能力。一开始要做些简单的，循序渐进的给自己加挑战。
Progressive training works with self-discipline just as it does with building muscle. For example, if you can barely get out of bed at 10am, are you likely to succeed at waking up at 5am every morning? Probably not. But could you master getting up at 9:45am? Very likely. And once you’ve done that, could you progress to 9:30 or 9:15? Sure. When I started getting up at 5am consistently, I had already done it several times for a few days in a row, and my normal wake-up time was 6-6:30am, so that next step was challenging but achievable for me partly because I was already within range of it.
像锻炼肌肉一样循序渐进的锻炼自己的自律能力。比如：如果你每天不到10点，就算地震也无法起床，那你让自己每天早上5点起床的可行性大吗？回答是否定的。但是9:45起床可以吧？这个还挺靠谱。一旦开始付出行动，9:30或9:15起床还难吗？当然不会。我一开始给自己定的起床时间是5点整，我已坚持了很多天，平时我是6点-6：30期间起床，所以5点起床对我来说是挑战，但也绝对可以完成，因为我本就是早起的人。
Without acceptance you get either ignorance or denial. With ignorance you simply don’t know how disciplined you are — you’ve probably never even thought about it. You don’t know that you don’t know. You’ll only have a fuzzy notion of what you can and can’t do. You’ll experience some easy successes and some dismal failures, but you’re more likely to blame the task or blame yourself instead of simply acknowledging that the “weight” was too heavy for you and that you need to become stronger.
不接纳自己，人就不了解自己，还会否定自己。那么你也就不知要如何做到自律——也许你从来没有想过这些。你也没有意识到，你其实是不了解自己的。你只会知道你能做什么，不能做什么，但也不是太明确。你会做成一些事情，也会做错一些小事情，但你很容易抱怨工作或者自责，根本没有意识到所做的事情是你无力承担的，你需要强大自己才行。
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