老话说得好，“不劳无获”。
心理学家研究表明，最有力度的个人转变源于经历了绝不想再经历的错误所造成的痛苦——“跌到谷底”。
所以，对于让别人或你自己获得此类经历，不要犹豫。
虽然说表扬人们他们干得好，这点很重要，但更重要的是，要指出他们的缺点，让他们反思。
解决问题比做顺利的事更花时间。
要把问题找出来、搞清楚、解决掉，而运行顺利的事则可以略少些关注。
相比于庆祝自己有多出色，我们则更关注自己哪些方面应该改进，这才成就了我们的卓越。
You’ve heard the expression “no pain no gain.” Psychologists have shown that the most powerful personal transformations come from experiencing the pain from mistakes that a person never wants to have again—known as “hitting bottom.” So don’t be hesitant to give people those experiences or have them yourself. While it is important to be clear to people about what they are doing well, it is even more important to point out their weaknesses and have them reflect on them.
Problems require more time than things that are going well. They must be identified and understood and addressed, while things that are running smoothly require less attention.
Instead of celebrating how great we are, we focus on where we need to improve, which is how we got to be so great.
