Helpful tips to get along with your loved one | Chitchat

Does this sound familiar: You're suffering from severe stomach cramps and tell your boyfriend, only for him to reply with a casual "drink some hot water"?

Or how about this: your girlfriend won't stop asking you about an ex, but the minute you finally tell her the details, she gets annoyed?

There are definitely more than a few "forbidden zones" of discussion that are best avoided in any intimate relationship. But these taboo areas differ from couple to couple. 

By reading through your comments from last week, we've come across some pieces of advice that really struck a chord.   

Let's take a look at some of your top tips: 

Lessons from experience 

@流萤

Do not get close to the ladybro of your girlfriend's.

@blwang

Don't flirt with other girls, particularly beauties

@Celia

Don't cancel any appointment with your girlfriend under any circumstance.

@Knock🌗Knock🌗Daisy

Never lie about that you are not angry when you actually are. My boyfriend always believes what I say is exactly what I think about. But what I really mean is that maybe he will find something wrong with me. In this case I will feel happy because it shows that he cares about me. But it turns out to be another fight at last.

Advice and wisdom

@乔乔

The better way to have a good relationship is to keep a certain distance.

@Ava

Being a married one, here are my thoughts. 

• Rule 1: Never lie to your partner, or try to hide anything from each other, including money and conversations with your ex-partners. 

• Rule 2: Always speak with love, therefore respect comes naturally. 

• Rule 3: Do not criticize your partner in front of anyone. 

• Rule 4: Be quick to say sorry and thank you. 

• Rule 5: Remember marriage and love is a life-long commitment, not a temporary feeling. Each part has to contribute into the relationship, and build it together.

@Aston Duporte 王乐

There are no rules to it. You must figure it out yourself and do what makes you feel comfortable. Every relationship is different of course because people are all different. Discover what works for YOU!

@Mike Shen

Communicate with each other before making any big decisions while in the relationship. Do not ever think you are doing beneficial things for your lover so that you can make decisions on your own. That is a typical root cause of arguments for lovers, "how can you be mad at me, I was just trying to help you".

Exes cast a shadow

@Wang lu

Don't talk with your beloved one about your ex-girlfriend, even though she says "don't worry, tell me more, I won't be jealous!" Trust me, it won't end up good.

@Vicky

Talking about the ex-girlfriend very often, or not behaving gently enough in front of my friends.

Public displays of affection

@star

First, mutual trust is of great importance. I don't know why my boyfriend and I have known for more than two years but we still have endless topics to chat about, which leads to other friends' admiration. I call him "mama" and he calls me "baby". Second, mutual care cannot be neglected. Most couples will be tired of each other during the increasing time, but I will not. Lastly, frequent communication counts much.

The tears of the singletons

@闵元

Damn single is here.

@Taro❤

Single dog, single dog, single all the day..

@Rua～非洲友人

It's not a big deal bro! Um, because I don't have a girlfriend or a car!

Happy Chinese Valentine's Day!

Editors: Jiao Jie, Shen Hui (Intern)

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